Monday, 28 September 2009

Rest in peace Auntie Marie....

It is sad to think of sometimes, when a loved one passes away. Is this the end of a family? It is in some ways. My Auntie Marie (darker blue dress), my Mom's sister passed away last week, she was the last sibling left.
We said our goodbyes and reacquainted ourselves with our cousins, some of whom I haven't heard from in almost forty years.
Where does the time go? I know I have my siblings and she had her daughters, we will continue the family line, even if it is the next generation. I don't know about anyone else, but I just feel sad that now we are the older relatives. The ones that are supposed to keep the families together. It feels like since my Mom passed away, we don't connect with our siblings. If we do it is very sporadic, some we don't see at all.
I want to reach out and hold my children and grandchildren close and tell them how much I love them and make sure that I have hugged them and kissed them!!! Probably would be okay with the girls, the boys, maybe not so much!
What's happening in your family? I'd love to hear how you keep in touch, and who is the glue in your world that keeps it all together?
MB

22 comments:

Serendipit-Us said...

Dear friend~ I am sorry to hear about your loss. My prayers are with you! As for my family, it is definitely my dad who is our "glue", though I'm sure he doesn't recognize it.He is our rock and the reason, when discord occurs, we all scramble to mend fences so as not to disappoint him!
Love & hugs!!!
Kimberly

LiLi M. said...

I am sorry to hear this news. My heartfelt condolences on loosing your aunt, and with her a generation. On my fathers side only one (of his generation) aunt is left, a 'Canadian' aunt, as my father had 2 brothers who emigrated from here to Canada in the 50ties. When my father died I started emailing with my aunt, now 87, on a regular bases. That works. On my mothers side we always had a very good bond, but we are with only a few here, that makes it easier. The strange thing is that my brother and I (I have only one brother) grew apart since our parents died. First my brother had a divorce, which was a pity, even more when we met his new wife. I just can't stand her, sorry to say so. We tolerate each other, don't argue but contacts are very low profile. It's a pity, I tried but I cannot make more out of it. It's hard.

KaReN EiLeeN said...

We have recently had a lot of deaths in our family these last few years. Please take a minute and go to my blog to read the poem about FAMILY CHAIN. It is the post before the recent one.
I think it will make you feel better. It did me.

Warm Wishes,
KAREN EILEEN

Lisa said...

I am sorry for your loss! We, my mom and my little sister Live on the same street! Mom lives with me and my sister and her family live across the street. My brother lives 3 hrs away and we now get updates on facebook! He is very "busy". SO sometimes I feel we are too close and then I know I'm glad we are here. My father's family is mostly in town here so I see them regularly, and my mothers brother is less than an hour away and they talk on the phone at least once a week. His children are close too and I have 4 of my 11 cousins on my dad's side are still in town. We are pretty good about keeping in touch, even with my grandmothers siblings children and families. But my mother was very close to her mother's family until she died and then it really is nothing unless someone else dies. Sad. Hope you are having a great day!
Hugs, Lisa

Caroline@ FOREVER VINTAGE said...

So sorry to hear of your Aunts passing. I can totally relate to how your feeling. I think about it all the time with there being only 3 siblings left on my Mom's side and not in good health. My Dad is the last on his side. He had a much smaller family than my Mom. It does mark a new generation and I guess we will all eventually become the Aunts and Uncles that everyone looks up to and respects. Since my Mom's passing I feel our family has never been the same, she was the glue and we haven't stayed as close even though we all live near each other, but we are getting better. As for my cousins I see them mostly at funerals...sad.

Lynn said...

So sorry to hear about your loss. My daddy's last sibling died last month, so the only person of that generation is my 84 year old Mom.
I can't even think about that.
We are a close family. Even though we are spread from Southern California to the Pacific Northwest to Oklahoma.
That makes a triangle!
I think the glue that holds us together still is my grandmother who is, of course gone from this plane.
Don't ask me how...

Lou Cinda said...

I am so sorry for your loss, and I know exactly how you feel! It is the end of an era, but hopefully, the beginning of another...

Lou Cinda :)

Andrea said...

I, too am sad that many of my extended family do not hold tightly and cherish one another.

Blessings, andrea

Diane said...

I'm very sorry for your loss of your Auntie. I send my sympathy to you. My sister died last September and the numbers just kept working on me - we were 4 and now we're 3. There was always 4 of us siblings and now there's not. It's kind of odd.

Mayflower said...

Hello dear Margaret,
So sorry to hear about your loss.
I am fortunate that both my parents still alive and we are a close family and all live close together. They are not especially the glue, cause without them we, my sisters and brother meet regularly.

Warm wishes
Mea

"bear's house" said...

Hello my dear...

I'm very sorry for your loss of your Auntie.

Life is difficult and puts you to the test...

I am close to you with my heart...

A special hug!NI from Italy

Michelle (Shell) May said...

So sorry to hear this news. Time is just flying by. Funny when we're little how our siblings are our best friends and then we just go our own ways as we get busy with life. I don't get to see my sister much, but I love the time I spend with her and the kiddo's.
Hugs to you Margaret.
Shell

Karyn Bernard (French Charming) said...

So sorry to hear of your loss Margaret, my heart goes out to you.

Seems the older I get the more precious my family is to me.

We all live busy lives and you have to make the effort to come together and enjoy everyone.

Take care Margaret, you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Coralie Cederna Johnson said...

I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear aunt. It is so hard to move on after losing a loved one of many years and one so close to your very own mother and yourself. You have my deepest sympathy, dear. Take care, Coralie

Casa Cuori Colori said...

Dear friend, I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear aunt. Take care Margaret, your are in my heart and in my prayers.
Claudia

Cindy said...

sorry to hear about your loss. i know what you mean about not connecting with siblings too. it seems like everyone just has too much going on... *sigh*

Draffin Bears said...

Dear Margaret,

Sorry to hear about the loss of your dear Aunt.
I know exactly what you are saying that we are the ones, stepping up to the Matriarch place.
I do know that as the years go by so quickly, that my Family is very precious. I think that it is times like this that makes you want to really make more of an effort.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and sending love and comfort to your family.

Hugs
Carolyn

Lynn said...

So sorry for your loss Margaret, my thoughts and prayers are with you.

All of my cousins are in England, me in Canada as you know, but I did get to see most of them (there are a lot) last year when I was there. Our immediate family is kind of messed up now due to divorces so I won't go there, but husband and I still have both parents, and our sweet daughter of course :)

Charlene said...

Margaret, so sorry for your loss. Yes, I had the same thing happen this summer. We lost my sweet Daddy's only brother. With Daddy gone...he was my one last link with Daddy & my precious Grandmother. So, I feel your pain & loss. It almost feels like abandonment doesn't it? So alone. Those ties to the past are only memories in your mind now. Revist those happy times my friend. Hold them in your heart & share those photos & stories with the next generation for that is how that very fine thread is woven throught generations. HUGS!

Kelly Lish said...

Wish I had some good tips for you Margaret, but I'm afraid I come from a family that is planted all over the U.S., so I don't get to be with any of them very much, and it's always been that way for me. My husband and I both call ourselves "orphans", and consider lots of our friends as family. Maybe that is why I am missing my son so much right now-he just went to college last week. He's only two hours away, but I miss him terribly. I have to say that facebook has been a blessing to me as far as keeping in touch with family. That would be my best tip!
Love, Kelly

Jodie LeJeune said...

Hi Margaret,
Sorry to hear about your loss. Losing a family member is always painful.
My little world is not so great right now, but believe it or not, this blogging thing is GREAT therapy!! It's because all of my readers that I get up and write a little something as often as I can. We are all here for you too...just consider us as your "second" family!!
Peace be with you and your family~
everything vintage

Sara's Sweet Surprise said...

Margaret~ I hope the precious memories you hold dear of your Auntie Marie will bring you comfort at this fragile time.

My auntie Helen is the last sibling in our family. She is such a wonderful women and we cherish her time and talents, as I'm sure you did your Auntie Marie.

Sweet wishes,
Sara